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IS YOUR HUSBAND YOUR CHEERLEADER OR YOUR SABOTEUR?
Is he encouraging you to prosper in your career, or slowing down your success?
Take our test!

You are probably drawn to the new book, "Permission to Prosper, What Working Wives Crave from Their Husbands and How to Get it" for one of three reasons. One, you're married to a great guy, the kind your friends are all jealous of, and you want to see how he compares to other men. Two, you are pretty satisfied with the guy you married, but sometimes, you get the feeling that he's more troubled by your career than you'd like him to be. Three, this subject has been on your mind a great deal these days. Your marriage is seriously strained by your commitments to your work. You'd like to know if there's anything you can do about it to change him, or to reduce the stress.

Here's a simple way to take the temperature of your relationship, to determine if your relationship is healthy, has a touch of a cold, you're fighting off a nasty flu bug, or if, unfortunately, your relationship is on life support and you are considering pulling the plug.

Score your relationship from (1) to (4), for each of the following questions, according to the following scale:

(1) That doesn't describe us at all (2) That somewhat describes us (3) That describes us most of the time (4) That describes us completely

QUESTION 1.

My husband and I thoroughly discuss any major business decisions or career moves that involves either one of us before anything significantly changes. Neither of us would dream of accepting a new promotion, starting a business, taking on more working hours, or relocating, without consulting with each other and being sure that our spouse is on board.

QUESTION 2.

Ever since we married, my husband and I have been best friends. When I'm worried about something at work, and especially when I'm happy about something at work, my husband is the first person I want to talk with about it.

QUESTION 3.

My husband is incredibly helpful around the house and with the kids ( if applicable). A lot of my friends complain that their husbands don't do much more than watch tv, play golf, and play with the kids every once in awhile, only when asked. I've often thought that I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband is a real partner at home, and that frees up my energy for work.

QUESTION 4.

Although our marriage has had its challenges -- what marriage hasn't? -- we've never even considered divorce, or come close to splitting up. Our commitment to each other is so solid, I can't imagine anything coming between us that would cause us to consider divorce. We'd never let that happen; our marriage is too important to both of us.

QUESTION 5.

I often feel like my husband's emotional support and encouragement is the fuel that keeps me fired up at work. He's my biggest fan, and even when work squeezes out our personal time together, he's incredibly understanding and accommodating. We try to carve out some couple's time every week, even if it's just a half hour a day, so that our careers don't overrun our lives and diminish our connection.

QUESTION 6.

Even though I devote a great deal of serious energy to my career, my husband still knows that he comes first in my life. I've kept up certain rituals that are meaningful to him, and I still take good care of him, even if I have limited time. One of the reasons he's never gotten in the way of my career success is because he and I both know, I won't take on a job or new business commitment that would make it impossible for me to continue to be a great wife. Jobs and businesses come and go, but my husband, I hope, is here to stay.

QUESTION 7.

I have never been tempted by an adulterous affair with a business colleague, client, or any other work-related associate, and my husband knows that I never would. He never worries about me mixing at work, no matter how attractive I am, because we have a terrific sexual relationship and a complete commitment to fidelity which we both honor and trust.

QUESTION 8.

When I saw the title of your book, "Permission to Prosper" I didn't think twice about it, even though I know that some women find the notion of seeking permission from their husbands to be offensive. For me, it's an "of course!" And I would expect exactly the same from my husband. Now that I'm married, I've given up some of my independence, in exchange for the rewards of being a "we." If something is not okay with my husband, it's probably not going to be okay with me.

Total your score and check the analysis table below:

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